You’re Not the Only One Struggling

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Most people only tell you about their victories. They might share some of their trials—but only after the victory.

I’m guilty of that. (So is the Koala Bear, above. Believe it or not, that’s a victory photo.)

But today I’m writing from the trenches, cover-fire over my head and Charlie surrounding me, so to speak. I’m struggling. I’ve been rejected/passed over by a ton of blogs recently, namely Forbes and The Muse—my prizes.

If you’ve been struggling and you feel like you won’t succeed, know that you’re not alone.

But here’s where there’s hope…

I know that I will succeed in my writing endeavors. And even if it goes against your feelings, I want you to know that you will find success in whatever you’re struggling with too. But you have to WORK.

I know I’ll succeed because I work my ass off. I’m staying up till the small hours of the morning perfecting more pitches even though I was rejected less than twenty four hours ago. And I’m doing it because trying is my only option:

if I don’t keep trying, no one else will succeed for me.

For 90% of publications I’ve landed, I’ve been rejected between one and ten times each–Fast Company, Entrepreneur Magazine, MindBodyGreen. And that’s okay. It doesn’t matter how pretty it is while I do it, or how much I fail, or how much I fall. Only thing that matters is that I keep doing it until it’s done (the same is true for you). And if that takes 20 or 30 rejections for my next sites, I’m promising you that I’ll weather the rejection. I will persevere.

Whatever you’re after, I want you to do the same. I want you to commit to the struggle. 

There’s honor in it. And there’s more self respect in failing and persisting than there is in succeeding on the first try. So, if you like having confidence, and if you like being successful, keep failing. Keep trying.


Just remember to always encourage your efforts!

Your success and continued effort depends on self encouragement. If you don’t have a morning routine that includes affirmations and self encouragement (think: Chris Farley motivational mirror talks), start today. Start early, then stay consistent through the day by applauding each of your efforts towards your daily goals. you’ll be amazed at how much more you achieve after just one month.

Don’t have daily goals?

You already know that planning is my thing. It’s how I’ve landed all my publications and created a successful coaching business. Planning is the core of my success story. And if you want to persist on the hard road towards your dreams, you have to have daily goals that guide you and inspire you, too.

So start your daily planning habit today. I’ve given you the templates; they’re all over Millennial Success. If you’ve wanted to start but haven’t, I’m pushing you to do it now. Get a blank journal and use the templates I’ve given you–starting off with a weekly planning page. Figure out everything you have to accomplish in the next seven days to be the most successful, balanced and inspired version of you possible. Make those goals concrete in a written list.

Then, every morning, spend five minutes reflecting on your weekly planner page to draw up your top five-to-eight most relevant goals for today. Put checkboxes right next to each goal. And when you’ve completed your tasks, check off a box, then give yourself the encouragement you’re craving:

“Awesome job! Thanks for kicking ass for me!! I’m so proud of you and I’m so impressed by your effort. Thank you.”

Even better is to have a separate daily goal–“Encourage Yourself!”

Put 10 checkboxes next to this goal, and make it your business to check off every single one by the end of the day. These checkboxes are the things that will keep you inspired and eager to succeed when you hit a dry spell–of which there are many. So commit to them. When you draft your daily planner, insert the self encouragement goal right in the middle of the page, underlining it for emphasis. Then when you open up your planner for guidance throughout the day, and you see blank checkboxes, flood yourself with affirmations, positive mantras, and encouragement for your effort. It’s so simple. And it’s so essential in overcoming your struggles.

Have any questions about planning, or don’t know where to start? Email me!

Thanks for reading, guys. If you’ve gotten value from this Millennial Success post, please let me know. I write to serve, inform, and inspire you all.

Dan

Written by Daniel Dowling
Hi! I'm Dan, founder of Millennial Success. When I'm not getting six-packed--that's "hit in the face" in beach volleyball--or reading Jane Austen's novels for the fifth time, I'm helping people make every day a breakthrough as a writer and coach.