“Just keep going. You’re gonna make it.”
That was my mantra last week, which I repeated at least 3,389 times. I was so sick and stressed that finding a positive thought seemed like cleaning the Augean Stables. No way I was going to meet my deadlines/continue living.
Five years ago I would’ve thrown in the towel and wallowed in bed for a week. But this year, I had a game plan.
“I shouldn’t have yelled at him. But I was so frustrated…I couldn’t help it. When I went to bed I just felt so guilty, like I was the worst parent in the world…”
Let’s get one thing straight—my client Amanda is SuperMom. She arranges her life so that she can spend the most quality time possible with her children; she makes every sacrifice for them. But at the end of a four-hour homework marathon with her three boys, she vented on her oldest son Matt—he just wasn’t getting the spelling lesson. A day later she was still racked with guilt.
So I asked her if she had journaled about the experience.—Ehh, not so much. And that was a problem.
Solo entrepreneurs will pick up a thousand different habits if it makes us more successful. We wake up before God, exercise like beasts, read a book a week—we even spend tens of thousands of dollars on seminars and personal coaching. But how much of it actually makes a difference?
In my experiments with lifestyle design, I’ve found that what I omit is tenfold more important than what I include.
Because you can say you’ll do x, y and z. But if your time and focus is spent on bad habits, you’ll only feel worse for not sticking to what you know is best, you won’t get shit done, and you’ll condition yourself to feel helpless–which is the worst possible attitude for solopreneurs.