I was out on a walk in the desert arroyo when I found myself throwing stones at a target 60 yards away. No matter how hard I tried, or how many times I switched my stance, I couldn’t get the (goddamn!!!) stones to hit. But then I looked at the target again, and I asked myself, “Are you really looking at the target?” And I realized that I had been taking my eyes off the target for a fraction of a second as I was releasing the stone. Barely even noticeable.
So I tried the target again with three smooth stones. And I committed my mind and my eyes to the target from address to release. I was that target. And when I slung the first stone, I felt the target the whole arc of my swing. And unlike the 30 stones prior, this one rattled into the drainage ditch halfway up the dried up creek bed. And the next one hit as well. And the next. And it was all because I focused my whole being on that target from start to finish.
What a difference a little focus can make.
Now I’m reflecting on my life and my journey. And I’m realizing that every single failure was a result of broken focus. I took my eye off the target, even if only for a day or a week, and that was enough to derail me from the results I wanted. I wasn’t fully in charge of my mind.
And now I’m reflecting on my success as a writer and a coach. I’m realizing just how focused I am. I wake up and visualize my success, and pray for the resources I need to hit my target. Then I work towards my goals. And then I meditate on my career in the middle of the day, visualizing some more. Then I work some more. Then before bed I reflect on what I did to reach my goals, and what I could have done better. I am 100% focused. All day. And when I throw myself into a day, just like the rocks this morning, I’m hurling all of that effort precisely at my target, because that’s where my eyes are. That’s where I am. I am nowhere else.
So where are you? Are you 100% focused on your target, or are you not? What’s distracting you?
Figure that out. Then throw all of yourself into what you really want to do. Don’t even blink.
“How do I stay focused?”
This is the most popular question from my coaching clients and readers. They have dreams, and they’re inspired to be better. But when it comes to working toward a goal, there’s always some distraction: family issues; health issues; kids—the list goes on.
The usual approaches to focus haven’t worked for them.
They’ve used schedules and calendars and reminders; you name it, and none of it has worked. Maybe that’s your story. Maybe your personal and professional dreams have been shelved because you simply lack the focus. And maybe you’re on the verge of letting these dreams slip through the cracks.
Don’t. Your dreams are part of your identity. And when they fade away, you fade away.
This article addresses the physical, mental, and emotional aspects of focus. You’ll discover a more holistic approach that uncovers the root cause of focus issues, which is rarely (if ever) a lack of willpower. And when you’re finished reading, you’ll have action steps you can take today to improve your powers of concentration and your ability to complete the necessary tasks on your path to success.
Are you ready?
Physical steps to stay focused
Even though it’s only 2% of your total body weight, your brain consumes 20% of your energy. That’s a massive demand. And if you’re short on energy, your greedy brain is going to be the first organ to notice. You’ll feel brain fog, listlessness, impatience, and ennui—not the razor-sharp focus you need to slice through your to-do list.
There are a few reasons your body may not be producing enough energy.
Digestion
You can eat all you want. But if your body isn’t absorbing the nutrients and minerals, you won’t have energy. Dehydration, low stomach acid, and imbalanced gut bacteria are a few culprits in weak digestions.
Here are a few simple steps you can take to boost your digestion and increase your focus:
• Stomach acid is 90% water—you need to hydrate more frequently. Shoot for half your weight in ounces of water, preferably in small sips throughout the day.
• Increase your stomach acidity with appler cider vinegar before meals. Take 2 tablespoons in 4 oz of water to boost your stomach acid and aid the beakdown of your food.
• Take a probiotic. David Perlmutter, author of ‘Brain Maker’, says that probiotics are key players in nutrient absorption and brain activity. He recommends supplementing with varied strains of beneficial bacteria—all of which can be found in his patented probiotic line.
Water
Water is essential in converting fat into energy, lubricating your joints, and shuttling waste out of your body. But it’s estimated that over 60% of Americans are chronically dehydrated. Is it a wonder we Here are 5 steps you can take to stay hydrated:
1-Drink warm water with lemon. Warm water expands and relaxes capillaries in your stomach and intestines, making it more readily absorbed. And the lemon provides electrolytes and minerals that support hydration.
2-Eat more water-containing foods—like apples, celery, yogurt, watermelon, cantaloupes, and leafy greens.
3-Drink more milk.
A 2011 study out of McMaster University found that milk was more effective at hydrating a body than water. The combination of fats, salts, and sugars bring more water into your cells.
4-Eat more salt.
Sodium is the electrolyte we lose most of during stress. And when you lose enough, it decreases your body’s ability to retain water.
5-Use an electrolyte tablet
We lose electrolytes through our sweat. Nuun, a popular electrolyte replacement among athletes, provides sodium, calcium, and magnesium in proportion to what you lose through exercise.
B-vitamins
Known as coenzymes, B vitamins are essential for converting sugar, protein, and fat into energy. But they are one of the first nutrients to be depleted by physical or mental stress. They’re also one of our greatest nutritional deficits.
You can replace the full b-vitamin spectrum with a single supplement. Or, you can replenish your B’s through food—like eggs, spinach, and lean meats.
Mental steps to stay focused
Once you’ve addressed your energy issues, the mental aspect of focus comes next. Whether you call it discipline, stick-to-it-iveness, or perseverance, focus is a muscle that strengthens with use. Flex it often and it won’t feel like work.
The first step to increase mental focus is to eliminate distractions. Some are insuperable—like kids and family. But everything else can be controlled. And the more of them you control, the more focus capacity you’ll have.
Here are a few distractions to cut out or limit immediately:
Social media
Aimlessly surfing the web
Texting
Compulsive email checking
TV
Dead-end relationships (romantic or otherwise)
If you’ve struggled with focusing, and you make habits of any of the above, you’ll be shocked at how much more focus you’ll have when you cut them out. You’ll also be amazed at how much time these distractions consume without your being aware.
But eliminating distraction is easier said than done. And you have to keep yourself accountable—or find an accountability coach. The other half of mental focus is making habits of focus-building activities.
Such activities include:
Meditation
Journaling
Regular exercise
Reading
Taking notes on things that interest you
Having fun often
And sticking to schedules
If you find your focus first thing in the morning with meditation, or journaling, or scheduling, your next decision to stay focused will be much easier. It’s like Tim Ferriss’s quote—“Win the morning, win the day.”
So schedule 5 focus-building activities in your day alongside all the things you know you need to accomplish. Make reminders on your smart phone and computer. Enlist the help of a friend to keep you accountable in reaching your goals, or hire an accountability coach. And when you find yourself bored, or puzzled about what to do, resort to your schedule and your focus-builders. If you look back at the end of a low-focus week and think, “What the hell did I do?”, then put a microscope to your week and search for the distractions. They’re there.
Emotional steps to stay focused
The final aspect of focus is something rarely talked about in the business world: emotions. These gossamer little things are hard to define, hard to control. And because of the challenge they pose, most people simply ignore their emotional blocks. But everyone has them.
Take my coaching client, Kim, for instance. She was fighting to feel alive again in her career and relationships. But no matter how many distractions we eliminated, and despite the nutritional and mental progress we made, she couldn’t stay focused enough to make any progress.
One of her goals in our initial session was to “achieve clarity on what to do in her marriage.” For 10 years she had been unhappy and unfulfilled. And the longer she put off confronting the issue, the more paralyzed she became. That feeling of dread spread out and infected other areas of her life: like her career, and fitness goals. She was emotionally blocked from focusing.
So, after our second session—where she declared zero progress in the goals we established—I told her she needed to make a decision about her marriage if we were to continue coaching. I instructed her to call a relationship counselor as soon as we ended the session and to schedule an appointment.
That doesn’t sound hard. But because she had put off decision making about her relationship for 10 years, it was the scariest, most dreadful thing in the world. And when she blasted through her emotional barrier by making that phone call, she magically found her focus. The next week was the most productive week she’d ever had in her life.
So, if you want to be able to focus on the little steps that lead to success, you have to clear away any emotional debris that’s impeding you. The best way to do that is to acknowledge the problem—like a relationship gone sour, or a fear that’s been holding you back—and take action toward a resolution.
*Accountability coaches are particularly helpful in tackling emotional blocks.
Sometimes our problems can seem so big and bad that we’re put off from making the first move. But it’s imperative that you do. And for some, like Kim, regaining your emotional focus can be as simple as a phone call.
Conclusion
If you’ve beaten yourself up for not being able to focus, you’re in need of a more holistic approach. So address the nutritional issues that are holding you back. Eliminate your distractions and commit to focus-building habits. Lastly, confront the emotional blocks that have paralyzed your decision-making.
Stick to this protocol for 1 month for dramatic results.
Article originally appeared on Entrepreneur.com