“The world’s ending…life has no meaning…I’ll never be okay…”
If everything you think is true, then the world is a scary, dark kind of place. But if in fact you are full of shit like me, and especially when it comes to the worst things that enter your head, then the world and your future automatically become brighter.
That’s why I’ve gotten into the incredibly empowering habit of calling out my mental BS:
“Ummm…that’s actually 100% wrong and not even close to being true…”
Not everything you put down on paper is gold. You might feel like that, especially when you’re in a passionate flurry of keystrokes, storming toward meaning. But feeling strong doesn’t equate to writing strong.
I felt strong for my first year of writing and I sucked more than anyone. Ever. (Everyone told me I should probably quit.) It wasn’t until I focused myself before and during the writing process that I improved.
Before I began my self-improvement journey, I’d end most of my days with no more knowledge or experience than when I woke up. I didn’t have any objectives or goals; I never reflected and planned for progress. So I never grew any faith in myself.
But when I started my self-improvement journey, I adopted a simple-yet-life-changing daily goal:
Do your best.
You’ve heard that goal-setting and planning are kind of like eating an elephant: you gotta do it one bite at a time. But most of us were never taught how to hack up the elephant and slice it down to digestible bites. So we approach our longterm goals a little different:
We spot the elephant, lick our chops, maybe even grab a bib; then we kamikaze attack the 6-ton mound of flesh with nothing but a fork and attempt to gormandize it in one sitting!
There’s a time for reflection and there’s a time for action. Not the mindset-shifting, affirmation-thinking kind of action, though. I’m talking about rolling up your sleeves, givin’ er some elbow grease, and making shit happen. You know…real work!
Because you know when you’re mentally prepared enough to dive in. And if you keep mentally preparing, you prolong the actual “doing” needlessly, which instigates the habit of procrastination, and trashes your confidence.
Hi there, and thanks for visiting Millennial Success! I’m Daniel Dowling, founder–and I’m also the smiley and inexplicably-pointing guy just above. (Yes, those are man-pris.)
Do you know what the exact opposite of success is?
In case you’re racking your brain, the opposite of success is my life story up until age 24, technically. Before then I’d been kicked out of highschool (twice), booted from the Army (which is almost impossible to do), and I dropped out of college. If failure was an art, I was f!$#*ng Picasso.
Learn about how I made a life-180 and started a lucrative freelance writing career in this podcast–>
Most people only tell you about their victories. They might share some of their trials—but only after the victory.
I’m guilty of that. (So is the Koala Bear, above. Believe it or not, that’s a victory photo.)
But today I’m writing from the trenches, cover-fire over my head and Charlie surrounding me, so to speak. I’m struggling. I’ve been rejected/passed over by a ton of blogs recently, namely Forbes and The Muse—my prizes.
If you’ve been struggling and you feel like you won’t succeed, know that you’re not alone.
You can’t go into work anymore without a full-body shudder.
The thought of doing whatever it is you’ve been doing for a couple years today is insufferable. Lately the only way you’ve been able to eek through the day is to fantasize about that big fat career change, and how much better life will be when you’re actually doing what you want.
Which is basically anything but what you’re doing.
There’s one mindfulness routine I’ve gotten pretty good at in my years as a writer and coach. Actually, I owe all my success to it: it’s staying in bed. And I’m recommending it for you to make 2018 the most accomplished and inspiring year you’ve ever lived.
“So Dan, how is staying in bed longer supposed to help me do anything besides move back in with my parents and possibly get a bedsore?”
Good question. I guess the easiest explanation is to share the story of how it worked for me. And it begins on my mom’s couch.