If you could be fit, happy, and in control of your life today, then why the heck would you wait? That’s why New Year’s resolutions can politely screw themselves.
Because we’re never technically going to be ready for the big changes we want to make. We’ll always have some doubt, some fear. And there’s never going to be a certain date that prepares us any more than the other 364 days in a year. That’s why we’ve got to take responsibility for our dreams to-day.
If you have some resolutions you’re putting off till January first, screw—that. That’s what everyone else is doing. And guess what? Everyone else is going to fail. (Studies show that 93% of them will at least.) That’s because everyone who resolves to be the best version of themselves on the first are indulging in a fantasy—which is that January first will magically help us have discipline and resolve.
“This year’s really going to be the year I get out of this shit relationship!”…
“This is the year I’ll catabolize my muffin top and get back into my favorite jeans!”…
“This is the year I’ll stop trashing all of my dreams and make something of myself!”
Yeah-freaking-right!!! Because that year is today. And if you’re not practicing new-you resolve today, and this week, and the rest of this last month, 2018 will slip away just as infuriatingly as last year.
So I’ve got an alternative resolution for you
Today—to-day—I want you to write down three habits you can no longer tolerate. Could be drinking. Could be limitless social media. Could be eating garbage food—whatever’s holding you back. Just pick three.
Then write out three habits you absolutely want to start—things that build up your confidence and self worth. Could be walking two miles a day. Could be learning about the career you want to begin. Could be writing or drawing or playing music every day—whatever is aligned with your purpose and increases your confidence.
Then every day, starting to-day, I want you to plan out those to-dos and not-to-dos on a blank journal with a big fat checkbox next to it. Include an even bigger and fatter checkbox at the very bottom of the page that says, “Do your best!” Super simple.
If you repeat this every morning, and follow through with your intentions, and applaud each of your efforts, and check off each of those boxes (to include the “Do your best!” box at the end), by January first you will be approximately a billion light years ahead of the rest of the dreamers. You will have all the confidence and purpose they lack because you practiced the better you and took responsibility for today.
And I’ll be your biggest fan. –Seriously, write to me. I cheer on all of my readers.
Why only three things?
I’m only suggesting three habits to pick up and three habits to drop because I want you to focus on the most important things that bring you the greatest return for your effort. This is the Pareto Principle: eighty percent of your results depend on twenty percent of your efforts. That boils down to about three major focuses for most people.
This is the antidote for people who get bogged down in minutia. We write out twenty plus things that they can’t possibly keep track of or commit to en masse. Thing is, most of the smaller things in life will resolve themselves once you put the bigger pieces in place. It’s just like a puzzle—which almost completes itself when you have the biggest pieces in order.
That was the way it was for me.
I was a fully dissipated millennial who’d never done anything worthwhile just five years ago. But I decided to start three habits: writing every day, journaling every day, and doing daily affirmations. I also committed to not doing the biggest things that held me back: relationships, unlimited social media, and TV.
When I planned for those things every day and followed through, my self-improvement jumped to hyper speed. My confidence grew ten fold every week. I became accomplished in just three months because I didn’t have the biggest weights holding me back anymore. And it was easy…
I only had six things to focus on! Well, seven if you include a best effort. Fast forward two years and I was published on the best websites in the world and getting paid more than my college-graduated peers—and I was doing the things I loved most! All I had to do was drop the magical thinking that a magical day or person or event would change my life for me.
The formula is simple: Do more of what you love and less of what holds you back. If you resolve to do that to-day, and if you adopt the habit of daily planning, 2018 will bring everything you want and more. If you don’t…and if you decide to wait for January first…God help you. Because you won’t be helping yourself.
Need accountability and expert guidance? You know about my work. And if you want a free download of the daily routine and planning template that I reserve exclusively for coaching clients, email me. My Christmas gift to you.
The tray refused to spin. In my attempts to master this quirky restaurant skill, I’d chipped or broken nearly a dozen plastic serving trays over a month and was no closer to success than the day I started. Didn’t matter how fast I twirled the tray onto my finger, or how fastidious I was in keeping my finger perfectly in the center—the tray always teetered off or stalled out.
As someone who prides himself in his athletic abilities and hand-eye coordination, this was a particularly devastating third world problem.
After a month of no progress I quit. (Incredibly, I found something better to do.) But last evening I was just finishing dinner and washing off my dishes when I absentmindedly began to spin a tray.
“I didn’t know I could do that…”
These were Stephanie’s incredulous words when she was given permission to read fiction for the first time in a decade. This mother of four and solo entrepreneur had spent the last ten years in a whirlwind of diaper changes, homework sessions and professional photography, which left her very little time for anything else she loved – including Harry Potter.
I give Stephanie credit for being so devoted to her family and for being so selfless. But her martyr-strategy didn’t work out. Read on to learn the procrastination-busting strategy Stephanie used to turn it all around…
My best days used to drive me insane. One day I’d lose myself in the golden bliss of a perfection–nothing could phase me. Then the next I’d step on a tack straight from bed, bump my shin on the coffee table, spill coffee from said table on my groin, and curse and scream at minor inconveniences for the rest of the day. Like an r-tard.
If I could be high on gratitude and joy on any given day, what exactly was stopping me from doing it every day? After I asked this question, I started taking notes on all of my days to find out. And I began to see a pattern emerge:
Purpose, gratitude, meditation, fun and flow.
I was out on a walk in the desert arroyo when I found myself throwing stones at a target 60 yards away. No matter how hard I tried, or how many times I switched my stance, I couldn’t get the (goddamn!!!) stones to hit. But then I looked at the target again, and I asked myself, “Are you really looking at the target?” And I realized that I had been taking my eyes off the target for a fraction of a second as I was releasing the stone. Barely even noticeable.
So I tried the target again with three smooth stones. And I committed my mind and my eyes to the target from address to release. I was that target. And when I slung the first stone, I felt the target the whole arc of my swing. And unlike the 30 stones prior, this one rattled into the drainage ditch halfway up the dried up creek bed. And the next one hit as well. And the next. And it was all because I focused my whole being on that target from start to finish.
What a difference a little focus can make.
Now I’m reflecting on my life and my journey. And I’m realizing that every single failure was a result of broken focus. I took my eye off the target, even if only for a day or a week, and that was enough to derail me from the results I wanted. I wasn’t fully in charge of my mind.
And now I’m reflecting on my success as a writer and a coach. I’m realizing just how focused I am. I wake up and visualize my success, and pray for the resources I need to hit my target. Then I work towards my goals. And then I meditate on my career in the middle of the day, visualizing some more. Then I work some more. Then before bed I reflect on what I did to reach my goals, and what I could have done better. I am 100% focused. All day. And when I throw myself into a day, just like the rocks this morning, I’m hurling all of that effort precisely at my target, because that’s where my eyes are. That’s where I am. I am nowhere else.
So where are you? Are you 100% focused on your target, or are you not? What’s distracting you?
Figure that out. Then throw all of yourself into what you really want to do. Don’t even blink.
People pick up oodles of habits just to taste success. We wake up before God, start planning, adopt new routines—we even spend tens of thousands of dollars on seminars and personal coaching. But how much of it actually makes a difference?
In my experiments with lifestyle design, I’ve found that what I omit is tenfold more important than what I commit to. Because a person can say they’ll do x, y and z. But if their time and focus is wasted on bad habits, they’ll be hamstrung—and only feel worse for not sticking to what they know is best. I’ve been there.
Falling Back Into the Wrong Habits
Several months ago I was rolling in it. After a few whale clients, I was having fun making money and doing what I loved. I’d worked like a mule to enjoy the fruits of success, and I’d disciplined myself to stick with the right habits. But there was a small hitch about my latest gigs…
I had to check email every morning.
In order to reach any success, I had to cut out all reactive habits (like email and social media) so that my daily routines boosted my confidence and productivity. I’d made a career by refusing to check email. But, for the month of large projects, I was fine with breaking my routine. I still did work I was proud of; I still ended the day feeling accomplished and successful. But the bad part happened after that month ended.
Even though I had absolutely no need to check my email first thing, I kept doing it. And since I didn’t have an all-day project to jump in to, I’d check it again before I’d done any work…and again…and again. And after email checks got boring, I’d jazz it up with a little Facebook, and some Twitter. Doing the wrong thing just gets easier and easier.
Of course I rationalized it, feeling that I needed to respond to comments on my articles and posts. Then I’d progress naturally into texts. And finally, I’d resort to unabashed Internet surfing, thinking it was okay since the day was practically done anyway. And then the day was over. Poof. And then the week was over. Flash. And then half of the month was gone without my having done anything that could even come within a fathom of the term “accomplishment.”
I was crushed. A month before my confidence was at an all time high. Now? I’m no bigger than an amoeba on a wart on a frog on a log.
How I Got Out of My Rut In 10 Minutes
I started waking up in cold sweats at three am. I felt my grip on success slipping; and because my days were zipping by so fast, I started to panic. I just couldn’t get any traction. That all changed on a Sunday night.
Again, I found myself up in sweat-drenched anxiety during the witching hour. I tried reading to get back to bed, and meditation, and visualization. This problem wasn’t going away. I’d had the inchoate feeling that I needed a drastic change, but I wasn’t willing to part with the comfort of my new routine. Not until now.
So I grabbed my journal and I wrote down the thoughts I’d been feeling and ignoring: I am disappointed in myself. I’ve let myself down. I’ve stopped doing good things for myself–just the plain truth.
Then I reflected on the most important question: why?
And before I knew it, the answer was staring me back in the face. I’d abandoned all of my winning routines. And I’d slowly given a foothold—and then a stranglehold—to all the habits that defeated me.
The Habits I Gave Up to Be Successful
My two weeks of misery were over in an instant. At 3:30 in the morning, I made the split-decision to quit Facebook for a month; to check email only once a day after four hours of real work; and to limit my texting to one round in the evening.
These had all been my primary sources of comfort in the past week. But, paradoxically, they’d brought on the greatest anxiety and discomfort I’d felt in several years. So I sacrificed them without hesitation.
Working back into my normal creative routine wasn’t exactly easy. I had to deflect a thousand niggling thoughts like, “Ah, come on…one little email check couldn’t be the end of the world, could it?” But I persevered. And by the end of the day, I’d written my first real article in over two weeks and accomplished a dozen back-burner necessities that I’d abandoned in my hiatus. I went to bed that night feeling an overwhelming sense of pride. And that was a feeling I wanted to replicate.
Within the next week, I’d managed to secure $5,000+ in new business—which was double what I’d made in any week before. Good habits have made me successful. But I wouldn’t have room for the good if I hadn’t eliminated the bad.
So what’s holding you back from the results you want? It’s not a lack of good habits, I can tell you that. It’s the little things that you’ve probably made excuses for over the past weeks and months—like Facebook, or binge drinking on the weekends. You know you best. But when you do figure out that one or those several little things, plan against them. Write them down. Then make a decision to cut them out of your life over the next month. You will be amazed at your success.
And if you need help along the way, check out my coaching package.
You are locked in a colossal battle. It’s invisible. And given that you haven’t produced a bead of sweat yet, you might be incredulous that this war exists. But those who win it will go on to the highest levels of success in business and in life.
I’m talking about your inner dialogue.
Learn how to change your thoughts and change your life
If you could see the bombs most people drop on themselves daily—I’m stupid; I suck; etc.—you’d know this war is real. But we don’t even hear these bombs exploding, let alone realize we ordered the strikes. Our internal war of the words has been going on for so long that we’re inured to the concussions, much like a veteran soldier, or a Syrian refugee. Most people are oblivious to the immediate damage they’re causing.
But how are we supposed to change our thoughts if we can’t see them? How are we supposed to connect them to concrete consequences, like the job we hate, or the debt we own? I had as much difficulty as anyone.
Three years ago I was stuck blaming my parents and girlfriends for my situation—everyone but me. I’d been living on mom’s couch for two years, and the longest I’d kept a job was six months. My life was an embarrassment. I just didn’t know the cause.
It took a trip to rock bottom for me to search for the answers.
I’d never been desperate enough before to make a change. But when you’re in existential anxiety, wondering whether life is worth living, you’ll do just about anything to make a change. For me, that meant reading self-help books…the ones I’d always marked for losers. And through reading all the greats—Zig Ziglar, Tony Robbins, Brendon Burchard—the same answer kept cropping up:
Change your thoughts,
Change your life.
I hadn’t thought about my thoughts. Chasing a new girlfriend, yes. Getting drunk as often as possible, yes. But thinking…I just hadn’t seen the point in thinking about that.
Someone broke down the significance for me:
“Your thoughts feed your emotions. Your emotions fuel your actions. Your actions form your habits. And your habits define your life. –It all starts with the thought.”
Not seeing another option, and for the first time in my life, I took control of my thoughts.
Thinking positively starts with affirmations.
I got into the habit of speaking highly of myself. A strange thing for someone like me to pick up—a loser by all accounts. I thought it was silly too. But I reasoned that at the very least it wouldn’t hurt me. And at best, I might just change my life.
So I looked in the mirror and said, “I am independent; I am bold; I am courageous, I am dependable”—everything I’d never been. And nothing happened, at first. But by consciously choosing any thoughts, I trained myself to tune into the subconscious thoughts that defined my life.
Within a week I started noticing all of the belittling thoughts that had been on repeat; I became aware of the war that had been going on inside me since birth. And with that new awareness, I started consciously thinking positively.
When I noticed a negative dialogue, I’d break the pattern by practicing affirmations. I diffused the “suck” bombs with conscious positivity. And within one month, I was a brand new me. For the first time, I saw life with eyes for opportunity.
I read the how-to books; I adopted a writing routine; I pitched my first publications—things I never could’ve done before. The next month I was getting paid $50 an hour to write. Three months later I was published on websites with millions of viewers. Six months later I was writing full time. And a little over a year later, I was finally living on my own.
Most people who are desperate for change don’t attempt the long-term strategies. They’re hurting now. And they want to escape the suffering now. But now takes a long time to build. If you can change it all around within a year, that’s fast.
But if I can do it, you can do it too.
Making a habit of positive thinking
All the mental work seemed tedious at first. But once it became a habit, choosing the right thoughts became automatic. I just had to make sure to start my day off with inspiring and uplifting thoughts—then I’d schedule activities that advanced my dreams—and within a year, I’d broken all the subconscious barriers that made life hell. I’d made a habit of positive thinking.
A year doesn’t seem fast when you want change today. But if you can commit to choosing the right thoughts for one year, starting today, you’ll pinch the new you one year from today. It’ll pass in the blink of an eye.
So choose a set of affirmations that work for you. Commit to doing them for thirty days, three times a day. Make daily goals for your affirmations and self-encouragement. And if you need help after a month, I will coach you to success.
How do you get out of a rut?
Much as we hate them, ruts happen. We spend our mental energy griping about the rut, wishing it hadn’t happened, and pretending that it’ll disappear on its own. But ruts are completely under our control. And they most often occur when we’ve stopped our success routines.
Take me, for instance. I make a good living writing, and I’ve worked like a dog to get where I am. But I’m not immune to reality: if I stick to my good habits, good things happen. If I stop, even for a day, the proverbial shit hits the fan. Like last month.
How to fall into a rut
I’d been working on several large projects for state agencies and foreign companies over the last month. These accounts demanded a lot of my attention, and I had to adjust my schedule accordingly: where normally I’d spend my first three hours exercising, meditating, writing, then reading, this month I checked my email first thing in the morning.
Not a big deal. I handled my accounts well and nailed my assignments. But after the major projects concluded, I kept checking email first thing in the morning. I didn’t even have anything to check—I just kept doing it because I didn’t discipline myself to get back into my normal productive routine. And a funny thing happened.
I lost all of my motivation.
Before I knew it, two weeks had slipped away forever and I hadn’t the slightest accomplishment to show for it. I felt restless, uninspired, and helpless—the opposite of my normal charged self. I didn’t know what was happening. Even my daily staples like journaling and studying seemed harder than cleaning out the Augean Stables. And writing…forget about it. I did 500 words a day at max (normally it’s closer to 2,000), and some days I didn’t write at all.
That’s when I realized that no one is immune to bad habits. I’d gotten cocky, and thought I could do whatever I wanted and still keep kicking ass like usual. But after two fat weeks of nothing, and me feeling like a fraudulent toad, things came to a head.
How to get out of a rut
This weekend I woke up at 3:00am feeling worse than I could remember. I was gripped by an intense mixture of fear, guilt, anger, and uncertainty that wouldn’t budge. I tried deep breathing—nothing. I tried reading to fall back asleep—nada. That’s when I realized this was one problem I had to fix proactively. So I picked up my journal (which had collected a week’s worth of dust) and started scribbling maniacally. I was determined to earn my life back.
And I was brutally honest.
I wrote about every little habit that was keeping me down. I wrote about my inconsistency, and how I wasn’t living to my own standards. And in the free flow of words, the answer to my weeks-long funk stared me right in the face:
I had completely abandoned my morning success routines.
Where normally I’d wake up with purpose, meditate, plan my day, exercise, knock out a writing project, and study, I was checking email. It doesn’t sound as heinous as I’m painting it to be, but the influence was subtle. It stole my confidence bit by bit till I was paralyzed.
Normally, every part of my morning would boost my confidence—I’d boost my mood with exercise; I’d feel proud of how disciplined I was as I wrote my first article; I’d feel smarter and more capable after having studied—and on and on. But now I was starting my day with a confidence drain.
When there wasn’t anything in the inbox, I felt worthless. And I was more focused on what I received than the effort I gave and the work I produced. That slight shift in focus was enough to degrade my sense of purpose, and it happened gradually. I didn’t notice much after a day or two. But then a week passed, and I felt bad about myself. Two weeks passed and I was no better than a speck on a frog on a log.
That’s how fast your life can change when you ease up on your success routines.
But the best part of this story is how fast you can turn it all around.
In that midnight session of infuriated journaling, I figured out exactly what went wrong, and what I needed to do to turn it all around. I spent an hour identifying the major gaps in my daily routine and planned for something better the next day. After my hands and sheets were covered in blue pen-scratches, I lay in bed confident that tomorrow would be different.
If I won the morning, I knew I’d win the day.
I’m not going to say breaking the routine was a piece of cake. It took every bit of my willpower.
I forced myself to meditate—to fight the urge to head straight for my laptop as I’d done the past 15 days. And after getting my mind right, I forced myself to do my normal morning exercise routine, which takes about 45 minutes. I hated it at first, and felt I’d much rather be surfing the internet and checking my email. But midway through the workout, I felt my old sense of confidence growing. The real challenge would be when I got back home—when I had to write.
Again, I forced myself to pick up the keyboard and to deny every impulse that screamed, “Check your email!” The keys were heavy, and my mind was slow. But I persevered. And after two hours—normally an article takes 30-45 minutes—I’d worked through three paragraphs. But I was proud of myself for the effort. And when I felt that pride surge, I tapped into a creative wave. Soon I’d finished my first real piece in over two weeks.
I still didn’t feel like my usual chipper self. But I knew if I stuck to my confidence building routines, I’d be back in no time—definitely later in the week. But I surprised myself.
By the end of the day, after hitting my standard goals, and then going above and beyond to reach my dreams, I felt as if I’d never been bucked off in the first place. I was high energy, high productivity, and high on life. Instead of the dread I’d known for two weeks, I felt optimistic about the future, and excited about my opportunities to kick ass, refine my skills, and make life better.
By the end of the day, I hit my pillow knowing that I’d done the absolute best that I could do. And that gives me the self assurance to strive for and accomplish great things.
So what will you do about your rut?
After making a profession of clawing through ruts, I’ve gotten pretty good at it. But if I can turn my momentum around on a dime, in under a day, so can you. All it takes is focus, clarity, a plan, and a promise:
• I will do only the things that boost my confidence
• I will start first thing in the morning,
• and I will keep it up all day.
Success is that simple.
The more specific your plans for an ass-kicking day are, the likelier you are to stick to them and build your confidence. So choose positive thoughts and habits—you’ll do more inspiring things. And when you find yourself in a rut, be brutally honest about the thoughts and habits that are holding you back. That’s how you’ll get back out.
If you’ve been in a rut for over a month, you may want to consider a life coach.
Are you a frustrated millennial parent?
You paid for college, paid for his apartment, paid for everything… but he’d rather play video games in your basement. You’re torn, and you can’t decide whether living at home is helping or hurting him. Your adult millennial child needs help before both of you go nuts.
But you can’t just kick him to the curb. He’s you’re son. You love him.
What do you do about your adult millennial child?
Four years ago I was your son. I slept on my mom’s couch and squabbled with my teenage sisters over who’d pick up dog crap. At 24, I should’ve been anywhere but mom’s. But I wasn’t.
I couldn’t keep a job longer than six months. Though I succeeded in college, I lost interest and dropped out before completing my second year. My only stints of independence were fake—I just clung to a girlfriend instead of my parents.
And my mom…she had no clue what to do. Her all consuming thought was: “How do I get my son out of the house?”
I was her first adult child out of five who hadn’t launched. My older siblings all had families and degrees, and even my little brother had been fully independent for half a decade. Then there was me: no job, no degree, no confidence…no purpose. No one could’ve predicted I’d make it where I am in two short years.
But here I am–an independent millennial!
Today I write for the best companies in the world—here’s a recent article for Fitbit—and I earn more in an hour than I used to make in 2 weeks as a full time cashier. I also earn a full time living as a coach. But more than any financial measure of success, I get to help hundreds of thousands of people achieve success through my passion. Ironically, I’m now an asset to frustrated millennial parents, like my mom four years ago.
How did I achieve independence so quickly? I’m going to show you exactly how I made such a dramatic transition. If you share these steps with your dependent adult child, he will be out of the house in one year or less—I guarantee. And you’ll never have to ask–“How do I get my son out of the house?” again.
Step 1- Eliminate low value habits.
Life is what you make it; everyone knows that. But people aren’t as quick to acknowledge that their lives are made up of habits, which they have complete control of. That was me.
But after I’d squandered 25 years, I realized that no one was going to hand me the life I wanted. So I got smart about my decisions.
I found that 95% of my habits weren’t bringing me any closer to my goals. In fact, they were shattering my confidence. So I eliminated all the low value habits that kept me from success.
I accomplished nothing during the 3 hours I spent checking social media and email. I wasted 2 hours reading news—the latest disasters, scandals, corrupted government officials, etc. And after I got bored the computer, I’d sit down and watch TV or play videogames for a couple of hours. All these habits temporarily eased my mind. But because I never accomplished anything, they destroyed my confidence.
So I let it all go—all of the incoming information that put me in reaction mode.
Put your adult child on a low information diet as part of the terms for living with you. No TV, no video games, no social media, no smart phone—not until they’re earning money and saving up. Your millennial child is still at home because it’s more comfortable than living on the street; it’s easy. That’s why you’ve got to shatter their comfort zone. Do it by having them eliminate their low value habits.
Step 2- Add in high value habits
Once you’ve eliminated the offending habits, it’s time to inundate your millennial with success routines. These are the habits that will boost your child’s confidence and build the skills they need to succeed in the real world.
1-Get them to start a journal
Journaling is the most important part of my success. It was the first time I ever reflected on my life: who I was, what I wanted, how I could make a difference. 15 minutes a night gave me the insight I needed to change my decision making forever.
Writing them down, I clearly saw how my choices were influencing the way I felt. Good decisions—learning, working, exercising—made me feel confident and capable. Bad decisions—like compulsive email, facebook, and phone checking—made me feel defeated and powerless.
Journaling reminded me to do more of the good and less of the bad. It gave me more control over my decisions. It helped me to know myself. And that knowledge gave me the direction I needed to fulfill my purpose and reach independence.
2-Assist them in planning out their days
I noticed that I was 100% likelier to accomplish something if I wrote it down. So I started writing all my goals, from writing, to reading, to pitching, to exercising, and making money. I made a ritual of taking my insights from journaling and plugging them into my plans for the next day. If I got bogged down in low value activities, I would plan on not doing them the next day. Then my days became a game to see how much I could accomplish. As I accomplished more, I felt more confident, more purposeful, more worthy. That gave me the courage to go out and get the jobs I needed, and to stay committed to my goals. The one goal I always strove to accomplish: finish the day knowing that I did my best.
3-Help them start an affirmation routine
I was living at my mom’s because I felt incompetent and incapable—because I felt like a failure. And my thoughts profoundly influenced how I felt. After reading about the power positive thinking, I started an affirmation routine that erased my limiting beliefs, that built my confidence, and that inspired me to be more than I had been.
I started out every morning going into the mirror and repeating these affirmations:
“I am worthy, valuable, confident, capable, useful, responsible, disciplined, patient, reliable, dependable, faithful, joyful, positive, professional, enthusiastic, energetic, decisive, grateful, generous, hopeful, inspired, creative, bold, adventurous, and independent.”
Basically, I said the opposite of what I had been, which was irresponsible, careless, and hopeless.
I was skeptic at first, because I knew I just wasn’t those things. But my mentor told me not to worry. The affirmations would work whether I believed in them or not.
Two years later, I am everything I said I’d be. Except I’m richer and happier than I could’ve imagined.
Have your adult millennial child start these high value habits as a condition for living with you. Purchase two notebooks: 1 for journaling, the other for planning. Then print out a list of affirmations that your child needs to hear every morning and throughout the day. Affirmations may seem fluffy, but I count them as one of the habits that changed my life. They opened me up to the idea of looking for the best in myself. And as I stayed committed, I found the best, then I shared the best through my profession. Now I’m comfortably independent while making a difference for others. Your child will be there in under a year.
What are you waiting for? Help your adult child create the high-value habits he or she needs to thrive and be an independent millennial.
And if you need help, I offer consulting for parents of millennials. Schedule your free consultation today!
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