Masturbation is labeled as the safest sex possible, despite that it’s not actually sex.

The idea is that you satisfy your sexual urges solo—you know… so you don’t boil over and go on a molesting spree. Pop culture doesn’t give us a middle route. You either express your sexuality physically, or you repress it and go insane. So, if we’re not in a romantic relationship, we must masturbate. It’s practically a civic duty.

But there’s one critical flaw in masturbation that, if you want to be successful in relationships, will defeat your aims. Masturbation is inherently selfish.

Read on to find out how unconditional love and self-pleasure don’t mix