Most relationships start on a pretty shaky idea: that you can be happy in a couple when you weren’t happy alone. It doesn’t add up, and it never works out. Instead of growing in happiness, we magnify each other’s insecurities and take from each other until there’s nothing left. This always leaves us heartbroken and even unhappier than we were starting out.
This is especially a problem for the pornified and relationship-crazy millennial generation.
The only solution is to become so secure in yourself and so on fire for your own life that you don’t need another person to feel whole. That way you can hold out for someone who’s worth a damn and love them for who they are–not for what you think you need from them. Here’s how I did that while finding more success than I ever imagined possible.